“Failure is an event, never a person.” -Zig Ziglar
When we experience failure in our lives sometimes we equate that to meaning we are a failure. If you ever catch yourself in your self-talk saying things like, “I suck!” “I’m a loser!” “I am such a disappointment.” “I’m a big fat failure!” I would ask that you take some time to ponder on the idea that failure is what we experience and not what defines us. We all have had experiences where what we use to “fail” at we are not quite capable of doing. We would never call a baby a failure for not being able to walk even after falling on their butt time and time again while trying to walk. Experiencing failures in our lives are what help us experience success. Success is merely the sum of our efforts each and every day to accomplish the things that we have experienced failure with in the past, or are experiencing failure with in the present time.
You are not a failure!
God doesn’t make any junk. No matter how far gone you may feel you are, or how unworthy you may feel of His love, God’s love doesn’t diminish because of choices you make or weaknesses you currently have. God’s love is not conditional on our efforts in life. He cares about you deeply and never sees you as a failure. All of us are a work-in-progress. Life is about learning and progressing.
Practice Makes Progress, and Progress is Perfect Enough
Most of my life I have had perfectionist tenancies. I constantly felt like a failure because I just didn’t live up to some perfect ideal. I kept trying, but it was more out to prove that I could perform perfectly. No matter how good my efforts were, I could not be perfect… none of us can. By looking at life’s goal to learn and make progress I have come to free myself from the negative belief of being a failure or disappointment, and it has made a huge difference in my life. I have learned to depend on God more often and not try to tackle some obstacle by my own efforts and way. I try to lean on God and seek His guidance with challenges and projects in my life. This has helped me make better decisions and also be able to recognize my limitations, and be OK with them.
Dare to Think Differently, and Dare to Do Differently
Today is a new day. We always have a choice in every circumstance. We are creature of habit, and over time we have developed some stinkin’ thinkin’. What I mean is when we have certain experiences, or triggers in our lives, they trigger negative beliefs or thoughts about ourselves. My challenge to you is to dare to think differently about yourself in those moments. Do something differently. Decide now what you will do when these moments happen in your life. Seek God’s help and He will give you strength to change your stinkin’ thinkin’ and help you escape the clutches of your membership in your own itty bitty pity party committee. Over time you can be free of your negative thoughts, or at least you will be more capable of processing your experiences in a much healthier way, and you will see the truth about yourself: You are a Child of a Loving Heavenly Father. You were created in His image. You are loved beyond understanding!
Give yourself to The Captain of Your Soul and receive the blessings that are constantly being offered to you, and see the tender mercies He places in your life each and every day.
-From A loving brother